The most important job in the world

 Joe and Claire

On February 29th 2000 I took on the biggest and most important job of my life. It was high stress, rendered me with little sleep, and made me worry lots. The pay was minimal, in fact this job had the possibility of sinking Kara and I emotionally, physically and financially. I began this new position thinking that I could do it without a problem. I was cocky and confident as usual, until I realized within a day, I was in over my head. To quote Jim Gaffigan, “I felt like I was drowning and then someone handed me a baby”. My new responsibilities always followed me home which made me feel like I always had to be “on”, and I did. All of the responsibility for success had landed on my shoulders, or so I felt.

The job I had been promoted to was not that of CEO, Vice President, or Director. I was promoted to biggest position of my life….DAD.

In your work life often when you transition from one job to another you shed your old responsibilities and take on new ones. In life it does not seem to always be the same. Your transitions equal additions to your responsibilities.

I had been through various transitions before, little brother to big brother, non-Christian to Christian, dating Kara to falling in love with her, being a child at home to becoming a husband, but nothing had prepared me for the transition from all of that to being a Dad.

I am so thankful to be the Dad of Claire, Katie, Kyle and Little B. My life is so full and rich because of them. As they grow I realize more and more how important my job as Dad is.

  • I am the protector of them always watching out for what may come.
  • I am a teacher, always trying to help them learn about faith the world and themselves.
  • I am a provider for them, providing for their needs and sometimes their wants.
  • I am their disciplinarian, making sure they learn right from wrong.
  • I am their friend, listening to them when they need something or just want to tell me something.
  • I am their mentor, hoping that they will come to me for advice when times are tough, and life deals them a “tough one”.
  • I am a role model, showing them how to respect, and love others.
  • But most of all I am their Dad, always on their side and always there for them no matter what.

The most important job I have ever had is that of being a Dad. Happy fathers day to all of the others dads out there, and to my Dad Terry!!

Leading on!!


Executive Coaches

Whether you are a low level manager or a high powered CEO, executive coaching is all the rage. So what is with this “executive coaching” trend? Can anyone become an executive coach? Can you take an online class to learn how to be one? I must say I was skeptical of an “executive coach” at first, but have found that they have a role in an executive’s life.

During my 15 years of management/executive management work I have seen mentors, coaches, consultants and other types of external helpers that have engaged with a company to help develop the long and short term strategic thinking of their culture. I have seen useful people that play this role and many un-helpful people that play this role.

So what is the secret to finding one that is useful? I think that they must have real life experience balanced with academic proficiency in the area you seek. The coach must have a strong outsider’s view of your organization enabling them to give you real feedback. However they must also hold enough “clout” with you and or your organization to give you the truth even if it is hard to hear and could jeopardize their contract with you.

Some call them consultant, others call them coach, some even call them therapist, I call mine friend. Thanks coach/friend for your interest in me…..